• On Gaslighting and Seeing

    Looking back on my career managing a number of quite different non-profits, I can point with pride to the accomplishments and successes of which I was part. I shy away from saying my accomplishments because virtually all that took place was done by teams of dedicated people most often held together by the desire to

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  • The Wrote Podcast

    Interested in finding out more about me, my writing and where the idea for Make the Dark Night Shine came from? Please check out my interview on the Wrote Podcast on 24 May 2024

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  • The Fundamental Point and Make the Dark Night Shine

    Originally penned in 1233 and revised in 1252 by Eihei Dōgen, The Genjō Kōan: Actualizing the Fundamental Point is considered one of the founding documents of Japanese Zen Buddhism. Written as a prose poem, Dōgen´s words are Zen itself, moving, paradoxical, enlightening and living. For almost one thousand years, Zen practitioners and scholars have written

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  • The Meaningful Life: How to deal with Change: The Backward Step

    I recently was a guest on Andrew G. Marshall’s podcast, The Meaningful Life. You can listen to it here.

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  • The Backward Step

    The Backward Step

    Everything changes. Continually. Always. Nothing is ever the same. This is the foundational teaching of Buddhism. We all know this. Yet our perceptions of how we change are often at odds with this teaching. People tend toward behaviors that attempt to hold on to conceptions of they think they are and what they determine is

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  • Engaging with Hate and Discrimination: A Queer  Buddhist Reflection on Equity, Diversity and Inclusion

    “When individuals in our society speak or act out of hatred against a whole group of people based solely on superficial appearance, it is a reflection of the mental state of our whole society. We don’t escape because we are not the ones hating. The challenges of race, sexuality, and gender are the very things

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  • Recognizing and Transforming Shame: A Zen Approach

    One of my identities is as a figure skater. For twenty years now, I have been practicing, learning new skills and tricks on the ice. For me, the ice is a source of grace, intimacy, and comradery. I see it as a practice of mindfulness, of Buddha nature, of beingness. On the best days, like

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  • Vaccinated and Horny: Now what?

    In a long year for our community since the beginning of Covid, we have experienced lockdowns, loneliness, fear and grieving as we mourned our lack of connection and intimacy. During this period, we first flattened the curve and then helplessly watched the wave of infections inundate us. Yet at the same time, we rediscovered community

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  • Not-knowing is Most-intimate

    There is a Chinese Zen kōan, a teaching story about a pilgrimage that I won’t share with you today. If Zen teachers were lawyers, Zen practitioners would be required to sign a release which states that whenever a teacher says they will not do something, it means the opposite, especially if they use words that

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